So I’d just like to share something that happened to me today.
My school prefect body (which I am a part of) went to this leadership conference today, and everyone was having a great time, and then when it all ended, we took some pictures and left. HOWEVER! Myself and my friend were still in the bathroom, so, you guessed it, the others accidentally left without us.
Long story short, a couple hours ago when I came back home, I was reflecting on what happened at the conference and just remembered how they left us, posted something in the group page that the prefect body has, and some people took it the wrong way.
I can’t remember what it is exactly that I said, but I concede, read the wrong way, on a screen, without a person to properly express what I meant, I would have sounded a bit whiny and sulky that they had forgotten us. What I really meant was, just to poke fun at the whole situation, because it really was rather hilarious.
ANYWAYS! So couple of students took it the wrong way and one of them thought I was trying to start a fight.
But the thing is, I could have easily written an angry response like “You idiot, I meant like…” or “Geez, I was only trying to be funny, YOU’RE the one jumping to conclusions…”. However, today, they taught us (among other things), that a leader serves others, not themselves, and to always keep a cool head over emotions. So I calmly wrote back, stating what I ACTUALLY meant, and offering my apologies if I had upset them. And everything was resolved: they realised I didn’t mean to sound so nasty, and they realised it was a joke.
But the lesson I’ve learned from this is: You CAN take a few hits. Seriously. What are they really damaging? Your dignity. I’m not saying someone’s dignity is not important, but for the sake of peace, and friendship, just take the hits, APOLOGISE, even when it was not your fault.
I think the current society places a lot of emphasis, on how you are IMPORTANT, and SPECIAL, and UNIQUE. Which are all very true. But this causes people’s ego to inflate, including mine. SO, when someone disagrees, or crosses them, they immediately let out a uh, “ROAR how DARE you!!” kind of response.
But seriously chill. Calm down. No one has physically hit you, no one’s kicked your puppy. PLUS, the things you say when you’re angry, you may not necessarily be able to take back. And there you go, a friendship gone, a reputation ruined. Instead, why not do what’s better, take the hits, and make a move to say sorry, whatever it is.
Because saying “sorry” (and meaning it!!) can change a whole lot.
So yeah, taking hits, and just apologising in advance. Important stuff. And I’ve definitely grown from today, and not just from the leadership talks but from also putting them into practice! Practice makes perfect, and while I don’t plan on being the perfect leader, I sure hope to improve!
Again I’m so sorry I’m not writing frequently; year 12 is a tough time, and I’m having to balance, wait let me list them, schoolwork, studying, assignments, assessments, musical stuff, prefect work, writing a 4,000 word essay, taking extra-curricular stuff, and another subject in addition to the 6 I already have. Whew. So yes, sorry, and I’ll try to write more in the coming weeks!